Your body go through many changes during and after pregnancy. After the birth of the child, you and family, everyone want to spend the joyous moments together with the child. At the same time, as a mother, you may feel the mood swings, sadness, emptiness within a few days after the childbirth. These can be called ‘baby blues’.
Baby blues happens almost to every woman especially to the first time moms. If the baby blues does not go away and continues even after 2 weeks, then you may have postpartum depression. This is a very common problem after pregnancy and happens due to the extensive hormonal changes.
What are the symptoms of baby blues?
- Mood Swings
- Appetite problems
What are the symptoms of Postpartum Depression?
- Severe mood swings
- Loosing confidence in herself
- Excessive crying without any reason
- Difficulty bonding with your baby
- Worrying about not feeling love towards her baby
- Fear that you are not a good mother
- Feelings of guilt, shame, worthlessness or inadequacy
- Severe anxiety
- Having thoughts of hurting yourself or baby
One may or may not feel all the symptoms at the same time. Some women do not tell about their symptoms as they may feel embarrassed, or ashamed about it.
What can cause the depression?
A lot of hormonal changes are usually the cause of such feelings. But there are many other factors that can contribute to this feeling such as :
- Tiring labor or delivery
- Tiredness due to lack of sleep
- Overwhelmed with the newborn
- Doubts about your ability to be a good mother
- An unrealistic need to be a perfect mom
- Being less attractive
- Lack of free time for yourself
These feelings are very common to the new mothers.
How can you help yourself?
- Rest as much as possible. Sleep when your baby is sleeping.
- Make time to go out, visit friends, or spend time alone with your partner. Even a 15 min free time is also luxury. 😉
- If you cannot go out, ask your family to take out the baby for the walk etc. to get some time for yourself.
- Talk about your feelings with your partner or your best friend. It is important to open up with someone.
- Do not try to do too much or everything by your own. Ask for help or support from your partner or family.
- Go for a makeover. Be beautiful and feel beautiful.
- If you are not able to do some task, its okay. Its not realistic to be a perfect mom.
How can you partner help?
- Listen to her. This is what she needs the most – emotional support. Encourage her to talk to you.
- Don’t tell her to pull herself together. She would if she could. Instead, tell her that she’s doing a great job of being a new mother.
- Don’t judge her if she is not able to do something. Instead listen to her freely.
- Take her out at least for half an hour so as to change the environment around her.
- Don’t make major life changes just after the childbirth.
- Take on some of the night feeds or caring of the baby so she can rest a little bit more.
- Offer practical support such as laundry, cooking, and shopping etc.
- Remind her that the postpartum depression is common and she is not alone.
- Do not forget to cuddle her.
- If you think it is getting serious, with the approval of the new mom, talk to midwife and ask for the right help.
I hope the partners will read these suggestions and put them in action.
Finally a congratulations on having a baby!!
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